The purpose of cemeteries? To defeat death of course!
November 11, 2009
This blog is an answer to the comments in my previous blog by James Leedam of Native Woodland Natural Burial Sites. Thanks James for opening this conversation up!
I’ve given some time to this response, please take your time reading it.
HOW LONG SHOULD A MEMORIAL LAST?
As long as possible, without getting too technical and reducing the question to a number of years. That is how the ancients thought about it and I don’t think humans have fundamentally changed since then. As individuals and as a culture we may have forgotten why we erect memorials but the same archetypal need slumbers latent within us. It just needs reawakening by the appearance of new memorials that actually appeal aesthetically and symbolically - the old Victorian stuff has long become morbid and meaningless to most people.
REGARDING BOULDERS AS MEMORIALS.
An ancient boulder slumbers in a forest - as a memorial to a human life?
I advocated that idea somewhat off-handedly - but I maintain that something like that would have a postmodern-primitive appeal. Which is to say, a timeless one - and there is nothing more desirable in a cemetery than a sense of timelessness. It is what a cemetery is all about - a place for people to escape for a moment from the inexorable changes that time brings.
REGARDING THE ULTIMATE PURPOSE OF CEMETERIES - THE DEFEAT OF DEATH AND TIME.
Death is the ultimate consequence of time; by resisting the visible changes of time with enduring cultural landmarks we symbolically resist death. Cemeteries that achieve a sense of timelessness psychologically “defeat death” . But many cemeteries actually emphasize the victory of time and death. Anything trendy does this - because the eclipsing of a trend is precisely another victory of time. Victorian cemeteries were once upon a time fashionable - now all they do is remind us of a specific moment in the past which is dead and gone and irrelevent to most of us. These cemeteries are not, and never were, free of time but rather locked to a narrow moment in it, a momentary aesthetic, a momentary belief system, which is now long gone.
We should learn from that - a new aesthetic of cemeteries should not fall into the trap of trendiness - or its opposite, nostalgia. Both will only create more symbols of the victory of time and consequently cause their own failure as cemeteries.
Of course we cannot ever escape from the style of our time, but this should be our aim at least - to transcend it by providing symbols of timelessness, or timeless symbols.
How do we achieve such a death-defeating sense of timelessness? The easiest and best way IMHO is to 1) place the cemetery into a natural context (but see + below) since nature undergoes the changes of time only very slowly and then by definition with natural grace; and 2) add human cultural artifacts which also age only slowly and gracefully.
We like the look of weathered old gravestones - this is precisely because they resist time, but without denying it. A titanium gravestone would not have the same appeal because it would symbolize a pathetic denial of reality. A tombstone and a cemetery should age gracefully. The closer the materials and forms of the artefacts are to the natural ones (without hiding themselves as nature) the better this integration and graceful-aging-together will be.
Zentralfriedhof - golden leaves fall year after year on the same mellowing memorials.
If we can achieve this, people will be drawn again tocemeteries as sanctuaries of timelessness - and what more do we need in our time-enslaved world than just such refuges!? (At a minimum, such a place provides room for hope of liberation from time’s tyranny.)
(By the way, in response to your belief that permanent on-site markers are not essential, this last point above is one reason why permanent memorials are fundamental - without cultural artifacts that resist time (and yet slowly succumb) there is no sense of the symbolic defeat of death which every human wants, however subconsciously hidden it may be in most. If these artefacts are personal and connected with a place, as gravestones with names and images are, then the defeat of death is even more striking. A central stone temple or any building may defeat time just as well, but it is not personal.)
PRACTICALITIES. (65 million deaths a year, 7 billion people living people needing graves and memorials):
This is also my big question, the reason I came up with Perpetua’s Garden.
Firstly, we can thankfully subtract the millions of Indians who want no memorials - the fuel for their cremations is another huge environmental question, but not mine here.
Secondly, we can calculate a smaller memorial space for each Western or Chinese cremation - and that choice is rapidly becoming the majority worldwide. (I have a simple and effective idea for this which I am amazed doesn’t yet exist.)
Thirdly, as you say, whether for a burial or a cremation, a memorial can be designed* (see below) to memorialize a few people - assuming there is a natural relationship between them. Bundling unconnected people into unwanted last-intimacies would not be a nice thing.
And lastly - and from my perspective most importantly - there is in fact a wealth of suitable land available, whose use would not subtract a square inch of green-field or “land for life-uses”, as I put it in my website. We just need to know where to look.
On this last note: I am keen to get some professionals like yourselves into my Perpetua’s Garden initiative. I have what I think is a potential answer to the space problem, one which would allow decent and enduring memorialization and the creation (not just the conservation) of green spaces.
If any of you would be interested, let me know. To ensure my own involvement in any initiatives which may result from my ideas, I will have to ask you to sign a simple non-disclosure form.
In the meantime, I look forward greatly to your responses.
Cheers!
Thomas Friese
(* And why is so little attention given by designers to memorials? An All-Saints Day article in the local Viennese newspaper - and Vienna is the arch-conservative regarding all death-matters - suggested it is because designers are typically too young to be naturally interested in this. A pity for us and for them, because it would be a huge market and an interesting new challenge for them, far more so than designing yet another kitchen container or light fixture.)
(+ If we expel the cultural aspect completely (as an extreme version of woodland or green cemetery does), then we have no symbolic fight against death and time but a perfect surrender - dust to dust, ashes to ashes, and nothing more. We must all accept that our bodies return to ash or dust - but to embrace that as a spiritual triumph or goal and not put it in its place as mere physical reality is to my mind a superficial view of things.)
PS: Regarding your first question: the information on a memorial stone can be based on people’s desires. Provide the market with options and let it decide. As a cemetery operator, you come up with various feasible alternatives, market them all, and see what catches on. People can decide for themselves, but designers and cemetery operators have to do the thinking and provide alternatives - the public should not be restricted to one option, or worse, to none at all!
Culture vs Nature in cemeteries
November 5, 2009
If I have one gripe with many green and woodland cemeteries it is that they don’t think deeply enough about the consequences to humans and human culture of making cemeteries more “natural”. This regards above all finding a place for enduring memorials in natural cemeteries.
This morning I came across an interesting story from the UK, in which the same conflict emerges in another aspect: http://www.midweekherald.co.uk/midweekherald/news/story.aspx?brand=MDWOnline&category=news&tBrand=devon24&tCategory=newsmdw&itemid=DEED03%20Nov%202009%2012%3A32%3A44%3A790
For the time-pressed (or if the link expires), the story essentially concerns the conflicts between mourners in a woodland cemetery and the deer that wander in and quite naturally eat the fresh flowers laid on burial sites. As a woodland cemetery, it is a good sign that the deer like to visit. But what happens when they eat all the natural flowers so that, paradoxically, all that remain are the artificial ones?
This simple example illustrates well the possible conflicts between nature and culture that can only become more evident as woodland and other “green” cemeteries multiply. I find nothing wrong with more natural cemeteries - on the contrary, Perpetua’s Garden aims to be just that. But people need to be clear that natural cemeteries set different boundaries between nature and culture than conventional cemeteries and the consequences need to be accepted. When a cemetery is intended to be a closer part of nature, it is only logical that situations like the above happen.
The issue of the flowers can be extended to memorials and in general to all that is human (ie cultural) in the cemetery. We want a cemetery that blends into and is friendly to nature - this means that we must accept that the human cultural aspect is curbed: that the flowers get eaten (or we use artificial ones) and that the stone memorial is forbidden. That flowers get eaten and must be replaced is a small concession to nature’s cause which we can easily accept; but not being allowed any kind of enduring memorial means the line has been drawn too far on the side of nature and human culture has lost its place altogether in the cemetery. The disappearance of the flowers upsets the direct descendents of the deceased - the absence of personalized, enduring memorials may not be noticed until later, when nature has naturally taken back its domain and no signs remains whatsoever, not even where the body rests. Then it is too late and human culture as a whole suffers.
Where does nature’s place end and culture’s begin, where do we draw the line, what are our priorities and what compromises must we make? Ideally we think about these things in advance and do not have to learn only by our mistakes. Perpetua’s Garden also sets this question as one of its tasks.
Man, stone and eternity
March 31, 2009
“All that we call history is largely dependent on stone. This is true for earth, natural and world history in the broadest possible sense; thus it holds true also for the creation of the planet, the arrival of plants and animals and of Man, from his primeval and prehistory all the way to the present day.
Just as we can only learn of the earth’s early history through fossils, so we know incomparably more about lost cultures that built with stone than about those that built with wood. Stone temples, stone graves and stone law tablets.
It is not the material per se that creates a historic culture but rather the time consciousness connected with that people, people who chose stone not randomly to eternalize themselves with and in. This consciousness has documentary power; it plants fixed points like obelisks, by which the past can be measured very far back.”
Ernst Jünger, Steine (my translation)
Ancient Buddhist graves hewn into the stone
This simple yet penetrating insight from this exceptional German author (1895-1997) captures far better than I could the relevance of returning to the use of stone in any new cemetery that aspires to perpetuity, that wants to go beyond time. And why conversely in our newest cemeteries the fragile materials of cement, steel and glass predominate.
The development towards ephemeral or even non-existent cemeteries is part of the global development towards ephemerality. We are now reaching the apex of a movement to ephemeralize all aspects of life, including culture and personal memory. We focus only on the present and the near future - our buildings, even our largest ones, are built of glass, steel and synthetics, and are intended to last a few decades at most. Our arts have “progressed” over the millenia from painting on stone cave walls and carving in stone, thus preserving memories and meanings from many thousands of years for us today, all the way to our virtual age, where most art exists only as non-concrete electromagnetic information that might last from a few seconds to a few years. Even paper photos are old-fashioned - our images, our memories now reside precariously in hard drives and other digital storage and viewing devices.
Ancient Corsican memorials - memories in solid rock
As that aspect of life most intimately connected with the passing of time, Death and the ways we deal with it in funeral rituals and cemetery practices have remained more immune to the surrounding ephemeralization of life. But even the supposedly timeless realm of the dead can no longer resist the change. Continental Europeans now get grave plots for just 20 or 30 years, North Americans and the British are moving towards burials with anonymous tree markers which might last a century, and in the most “advanced” parts of our world tangible markers are now disappearing into the ultimately fleeting realm of virtuality - centralized electronic displays of the deceased’s information at the cemetery or online markers. As Jünger says, this is a reflection of the time-consciousness of the culture, in our case one fixated on the present only, concerned only with acceleration and change.
Ancient Etruscan family tomb - in stone
But things are changing. Or rather, our sense of reality is improving, and we are beginning to see beyond the dead-end road our shortsighted “now-mentality” has led us down. In fact, this dead-end road will end, for our cultures and for each of us, in the same place it has since mankind has existed - in the grave, in the earth. When we begin again to realize our mortality, not theoretically, but palpably, directly in front of us, as aging individuals and cultures, then we will once again understand the ancient impulse to transcend time through leaving enduring memories.
In this connection, as contrary to current trends as it may appear, stone is the way of our future. The monopoly of NOW has come to a head, after which the pendulum will swing back towards a re-evaluation of time, memory, experience, and history - and we should add, of the long term future. At that point, closer than we may think, Perpetua’s Garden will be there as a place to create lasting memories of our culture and ourselves - memories hewn into, and with, the stone of our mother earth.
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